When I coach, I spend time talking to the kids about the things they can control in a game. Attitude and Effort are sublimely self-reliant. Unfortunately, that self reliance is based on a curious concept called Headspace. I first found the term through meditation, but have seen it used in all walks of life from sports, to yoga, to pornography. Everyone required to maintain a level of mental control and toughness refers to the ability to get in their ‘proper headspace’ in order to be successful.
Here’s a fact: Though headspace is the embodiment of attitude and effort, finding that elusive space (zone) is extremely difficult and affected by numerous factors including (but not limited to) outside environment, people, time, and the condition of your own body.
I bring this up as I have discovered that it is near impossible to get into the proper headspace inside my own home. That’s the thing with headspace, the number of factors fighting against you make it hard to find what you need. At home I have little working in my favor. The mood here is always extremely high energy (frantic) or straight up negative, which means I am fighting through that to reach the proper headspace. There is also the matter of responsibilities. When in my writing headspace I need to know that the words are all that matters. At home I can sustain that for 10 minutes, but much more requires an escape.