- I’m trying a new coffee regimen thanks to the prodding of a friend. It is one small part of a larger dietary situation she suggested. I’m not all in, but I am willing to at least start with the modified coffee as an attempt to trigger fat burning in my overweight self. What about exercise, you say? That has to happen as well, but I’m getting to that part.
- The continued narrowing of my social connections is further indication that I do need someone to reach out to. It has also made me aware of how I choose those connections and what I hope to get out of them. It has me looking at Social Exchange Theory again, and considering the role it plays in my human interactions.
- My non-human interactions are slowing considerably as well. The other day I noticed a Super Smash Bros play guide in the bookshelf and considered dedicating 30 minutes a day to getting good at the game so I could be competitive with the kids. That made me recognize that I don’t actually play too many games for myself or at all. The few I do play for me are phone based…
- Which brings me back to the conclusion that the phone has become the social hub of my life. I talk to my best friend on the phone every day and when I’m not doing that I’m texting her or hanging out on one of the games–low key looking forward to that next text. So there’s a larger conversation to be had about that situation.
- I believe we are most like the people we spend the most time with. Behaviors normalize over time and we become similar to each other as we move closer to each other–mirroring habits and particularities. Does this means that if you spending a great deal of time in isolation then your true self emerges? Are you merely taking cues from whatever outside input you allow yourself?
- Love is as love does. My favorite line from the film Closer is during the pivotal break up scene near the end when Alice responds to a claim of ‘I love you’ with “where?” I think that sums up the very ethereal and oft tumultuous nature of love. That is followed by, “I can’t do anything with your easy words.” And that there is a true indication of love. When we love it bleeds through in our actions or inaction. It shows in our pain and in the pain we cause and how we respond to the pain of others. It shows in what we see as important and lasting and what we do consciously. Perhaps more importantly, it shows in what we do subconsciously and in the little actions that we don’t ourselves notice but are noticed by the ones we love. We see love in what blossoms and what fades and what is strong and healthy and what is left to wither and die. We see love in what we respect and what we disrespect and what we honor. And what we do with what they honor. All of this is part of love and more still remains.