You take the good and the bad in equal measures. After all, we cannot appreciate one without the other. I think about this concept every morning I wake up and make my way to the living room to try and spend a little time out there enjoying the space before it is occupied by a cavalcade of boys who are deeply ensconced in a world dominated by anime. They call people of this sort Weebs. I have no formal definition of the term other than to say they are teens and young adults who value Japanese anime culture above all else in spite of not being Japanese. The more derogatory Weaboo indicates that they would prefer to be Japanese than what they presently are. Not sure where my boys are in the respect. I mention all this to show the good and bad in equal measures. To the good, the partner and I had a decent amount of time together without any kids and it was wonderful. To the bad, they came home and we realized that nothing had changed. Nothing every changes. They are set in their selves and goals and ideas.
Honestly, what they do is no different than what anyone else does in regards to what they find important. They sink in, they talk about it constantly, and they build their lives around it. I’m the same about the things I find value in, but the difference to me is that I find value in those things. This is not to say I don’t value what they like–I value that they like it.