I still get baited by these kids sometimes. I think the difference is knowing when it comes from a place of love vs a place of indifference and even contempt. A love nourished bait I can handle, consider, and even accept as a possible personal issue to consider. The other ones feel false and less about me and more about the chance to say something and feel strong or interesting or intelligent or , more likely, more like an insider and me the outsider.
I’m not here for it—not in my own merged family. Being married and beigg bf part of all this means a lot to me and probably more than it does to any of the individual children subject to the merger It can feel like the Middle Ages here sometimes, like I came in and they resent my being here because of what it means to their comfort and progression.
so I can get a little salty depending on where the words come from. I’m adult enough to remove myself from the space before I respond in a way that upsets the delicate balance that is a merged home. Still learning how to do all this and be comfortable on all of this.
doesn’t always go well.
Some Thoughts
- Absolutely Bonkers Headline of the day: “‘Christ is king’ becomes a loaded phrase in US political debates, especially on the right” You think??