By 6pm the 4 yr olds were in complete control. We were 30 minutes into practice and the repetitiveness of the drills finally drove them mad. At first they were engaged, but it only takes one kid to trip up the entire system. It wasn’t my kid this time. The child in question decided it would be more fun to tumble than to play. The others picked up on the wild energy and a straightforward practice turned into an exercise in cat herding. Later that night I ran into another coach who asked me how I did it. I coach three flag football teams ages 4-5, 6-7, and 8-9. This was, to him, absolutely insane. He’s right, but there is a method to my madness.
I used to think the boys played football because I love football. This is highly untrue. In truth they play football because they like the feeling of being chased and not getting caught–their words, not mine. I want to be a part of that experience with them. I used to take the boys to the park and run and play with them. Where we live not a lot of fathers do that sort of thing, so other kids always jump in and play with us, and I always feel awkward because I don’t know them and I don’t want their parents getting concerned that some random black man is playing with their kids.
In a practice session I can run around and have fun with my boys without feeling that strange awkwardness that always unfolds when random stranger kids try to jump in. Furthermore, I get to see my kids interact with others and to be in a competitive environment where they can face challenges and shine.
Above all else, it is damn good fun to direct kids in a sport. I like taking part in their excitement–win or lose. I enjoy the moments now, because I can’t do it forever. Sooner or later they grow up and don’t want to play with daddy anymore.
Some Thoughts:
- There is an Esquire channel–ostensibly based off the ideals of the magazine. That seems a bit much, especially since there is already a wealth of male-interest channels. The lineup is weak, save for a peculiar show about fathers who push their kids into texas youth football. This show resonates with me, given that my eldest may be entering the tackle world shortly.