My best male friend and I wound up in a conversation today about a great number of things. In the process of this long overdue talk he managed to identify a problem that has been nagging at my psyche. The problem started in my home office and moved to the work office and back to the garage. It moved out of the physical realm to that place where it impacted my relationships. From there it really went viral. See, I found myself locked in place in a great many things without the ability to move forward, because it all seemed so much. Then he said, “Write a list.”
There are simple solutions and there are starts to solutions. I’d been thinking about it for some time. I used to be a list maker. I wrote here about the lists and the adulation of actually finishing one. That very act pushed me out of writing more lists in some way. I actually believed I’d outgrown the process. Once I thought I’d outgrown outlines and I was very wrong about that.
The problems were the same: When faced with the impossibility of a giant task I froze. Now lists only provide the frame of the conundrum and offer the possibility of first steps. Perhaps first steps are what I needed most…
Some Thoughts:
- Woody Allen’s marriage to his daughter Soon Yi is still creepy. In a recent interview he called his initial relationship with her ‘Paternal’. Newsflash: it is supposed to be that and not what it is. Then again, I support love as it evolves in virtually all forms. That won’t stop me from talking MAD trash.