I spent a bit of time last night starting to work on my June calendar. I appear to have my boys for most of the rest of the month–only not having them 6 out of the remaining 25 days. I’m transitioning, in this time period, to a state of being where they can get along without me. No, I’m not dying or moving away. I am likely moving and in that shift of life and lifestyle there is going to be more people in the house and less of their normal routine in play. In other words, they need to grow as we grow. They also, more basically, need to realize that despite me being around a lot more this month I still have a ton of work that needs doing and cannot play all of the time.
I ought to give my boys some credit. While I act like they are on me all of the time, the truth is they’re about that life roughly half the time. They spend a great deal of time focused on playing fortnite or other games by themselves or having a ton of kids over to run around with them. During these times I remain almost entirely uninvolved. However, the basic facts are such: If they don’t have anything going on they expect me to be there to help them have something going on. What I need to do moving forward is to set clear balance lines and help them understand that I’m not the fall back plan. They gotta learn how to fend for themselves outside of video games.
Of course, it is not a bad thing to have my kids want to hang with me. I greatly appreciate that part of my day and my life. I also appreciate having time to hang with my partner and to write. All of these things need to find balance moving forward. Only time will tell how that goes.
Some Thoughts:
- Despite the overwhelming power of the Warriors Basketball Franchise and the open fact that Lebron’s #2 is more like the Warriors #4, the games have been close. The games have been altered by some really bad calls and that sort of thing got in the head of an already deflated Cavs team that appeared to phone in Game 2. Now they are going home for game 3 and I have every expectation of a Cavs win. If it is a blowout then we have a series. If not, we go 6.