I’ve been alive for 47 years. In all of that time I’ve only felt in control of my life for maybe ten years–non-consecutively. These momentary flashes of control serve as brief reminders that I have the ability to determine who I am and who I want to be. More often than not I feel as a passenger. Though I signed up for the ride I have little by way of controlling the route and ride to the destination. This is a mindset. This is a powerful prison of a mindset that I feel influences most of the people around me. The key is to remember that we are in control of how we feel about our lives and what we manifest in terms of intention and action in our own lives. This is regardless of what is happening around us.
When I talk about my kid who plays games and binges shows and from time to time skips work, I have spoken of a sense of jealousy that probably makes little sense on the surface. The reality is that he is aimless and there is a freedom in that. Yet that too is a mindset that he controls and the way I see it is a mindset that I control. The moment we compare our lives to the people we see around us is the moment we start to alter how we feel about our lives–be it for the positive or negative. The key is to ‘stay in your lane’ and look at what you are doing and lock in on what you want for yourself. The harder version is to do that with a partner–to establish the we and to sync up mindsets in a way that allows both of you to prosper mentally. I’ve yet to figure out how to sustain that.
Some Thoughts:
- No matter what comes post death–it isn’t me. It isn’t this. It isn’t the existence I’ve had. Even in mind of reincarnation we become other. Our material spirit may exist, but our memories and actions form the foundation of who we are and can be and will be. Life is precious. Life is limited. Enjoy it in any way that you can.
- That sounded darker than intended.