So, here is what my family life looks like:
I have a mother who was borderline abusive and I learned to dislike as I grew older. Far from a total demon, she did things that were beneficial to me. However, she did them in pursuit of her own ego and agenda. She made decisions for me, and is likely responsible for a great deal of my anger issues. Fast forward to my divorce and she found an ally in my ex wife. Better to say that she found someone who didn’t care that they were being manipulated so long as it ended with a payment.
More and more my mother has tried to intervene in my children’s lives and make decisions about those lives (whether or not they take driver’s ed, for example) entirely independent of me. She is making a serious effort to bring them across the country to see her completely independent of me, and has not spoken to me in nearly a year. In short, my mom is trying to ursurp my role as a parent. I will not stand for that.
It is the role of a grandparent to be supportive of the parent, not to try and create a power dynamic where she feels like she is the one in charge. She has never understood or cared to understand that and the more she reaches for power, the more likely I will make an effort for my kids to never see her again.
Some Thoughts:
- Never blog angry… yeah I broke that rule.
- I am angry about a lot of things from family all the way to politics. It is at times like these I want to tell everyone screw off and let them burn it all down and just leave.
- But then what? I’m just another freak in a cabin in the woods with kids who grow to hate him? Full circle I suppose.